Dave

 
I went to Dave's funeral today. I knew him for over thirty years. For many of those years he was a regular at my local pub.All his working life was spent with Sheffield Council's Parks and Gardens Department. He even lived in the Victorian park keeper's house by the entrance to one of Sheffield's most popular parks. That is where he and his wife raised their three children.

Dave spent all of his working life outdoors and he was not religious in any way so it was fitting that the funeral farewells were said at Apperknowle Natural Burial Ground just beyond the southern limits of this great northern city.

It was a beautiful winter's morning with yet more blue sky and sunshine, the air as still as a painting. The view from Apperknowle over the hills of Derbyshire was so spectacular that I wished I had brought my camera along but of course taking photos at funerals is generally frowned upon.

There were around a hundred and fifty people there to say goodbye. His mortal remains lay in a beautiful basket coffin with an equally beautiful  arrangement of flowers on top. One of his sisters delivered a simple eulogy with calm dignity and sororal love.

And all of this was out in the open air before his body was taken to its final resting place - a grave that had been dug in the top corner of the burial ground where an orchard is gradually forming around and from the dead.

Along with "Largo" from Dvorak's New World Sympathy, there were three songs . "Annie's Song" by John Denver, "The Circle of Life" by Elton John and one I did not know - "Something to Someone" by Dermot Kennedy.  Have you ever thought about which music or song you would like at your funeral?

Farewell Dave. It was good to have known you my friend.


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Book Club

 

Our Book club is a new one, a spin off of an original 2005 club who has been going strong .
I was first into the meeting room, closely followed by a friendly forty something South African Asian chap called Faisal who I liked immediately because he shook my hand, had a big smile and the fact that his dog had ripped apart his book of the month. I showed him my phone case which Roger has chewed only five hours previously, and he nodded knowingly.
I think we are going to be firm friends 
The rest of the group by chance had all met in the foyer with Alison ,our bubbly facilitator and found their seats some ten minutes later.
The demographic was much younger and varied than I expected . Out of twenty of us , two thirds were in their twenties and half of those described themselves with the pronoun of “ they” . Apart from Alison there were just three older group members, including myself and so the energy in the room was different than I expected. 
One young person dominated the conversation, but I enjoyed listening to the discussions, having not fully read the book of choice. 
I’ll go again.


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LGbTQ+ Dumplings

 

I’m going to an LGBTQ+ Bookclub later. I will blog about it when I get home.
The cockerel died this morning as I predicted. 
I’ve read my book and drank tea and made chicken dumplings steamed in miso



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Jesus

 Trying to rein 

In my thoughts

Is one of

The hardest things

I do 

Every day

It all 

Comes back

To the heart

Of who

Trust

Myself

Or

YOU

Lord

Help me

Cede my desire

To control others

When it’s difficult

To police 

My own emotions



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